Narcissists

Trauma bonding occurs when a narcissist repeats a cycle of abuse with another person which fuels a need for validation and love from the person being abused. Trauma bonding often happens in romantic relationships, however, it can also occur between colleagues, non-romantic family members, and friends.
The narcissist begins with:
1. Love Bombing
2. Trust and Dependency
3. Criticism
4. Gaslighting
5. Resigning to Control
6. Loss of Self
7. Addiction
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To break the bonds:
No Secret Self Blame
Know thy self
Know the enemy
Know the power
Know your patterns, old and new
Know the now
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Narcissistic personality disorder

• “Narcissistic personality disorder is named for Narcissus, from Greek mythology, who fell in love with his own reflection. Freud used the term to describe persons who were self-absorbed, and psychoanalysts have focused on the narcissist’s need to bolster his or her self-esteem through grandiose fantasy, exaggerated ambition, exhibitionism, and feelings of entitlement.”—Donald W. Black

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Narcissistic State

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Parliamentary problems

• Intellectual Dark Web and the blind leading the blind.
• Godly constitutions and faulty models and the big picture.
• The electoral college and the Mysteries of the Universe.
• Jordan Peterson, I act as if God is the existing one.
• "I AM THAT I AM" None is good.
• Michael Malice and the theory of government form is not the soul of society.

Narcissistic Spirit

1. ) Lack of Empathy
2. ) Little evidence of Remorse
3. ) No compromise, expecting privilege and entitlement.
4. ) Deceptive yet justified with an attitude of supremacy.
5. ) Feign compassion but will rage with angry demands.
6. ) Emotionally Dependent expecting support and admiration.
7. ) Uses verbal, emotional, financial, sexual, legal or physical abuse to batter for Control.

Narcissists are often unaware of what they are doing.

They do have evidence of empathetic feelings.

While they are manipulative it is largely subconsciously manifested and unquestioned by them.

While a Sociopath is generally conscious and are in need of being in control of their reality, and of others who are part of their constructed reality.

There may not be much difference at times and we should not limit Narcissism to the extreme version of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Narcissism involves arrogant, manipulative, selfish, power motives, and vanity.

A narcissist can appear to change their identity because they have no fixed identity of their own.

The Narcissist like sociopaths may be the result of unresolved trauma or a life growing up with other people who project their personality into the tender emerging individual.

How do you know a narcissist is an emotional vampire?

Their love of mirrors. Narcissists are often characterized as egotistical and self-centered. But are they manipulative?

Are they are evil or merely victims of other Narcissists? Their behavior can be harmful but it may be rooted in deep-seated insecurities they never desired and laced with internal guilt. If they refuse to see their part in this original trauma they may feel an addiction for emotional or validation.

Narcissists are willing to exploit for the validation like an addict who needs a fix. They use people and will sacrifice or discard them like trash. They lack guilt and feel no real care and will despise those that expose them.

Narc bait

People who are extremely caring and empathetic by habit will often draw to themself the narcissist personality.

They are attracted to these caring individuals because they there need to serve others may create a vulnerability. The narcissist can sense they can take advantage of their vulnerability and is drawn to the individual who may desire to exploit their weakness like an alcoholic desires another drink.

You must know your self if you desire a relationship with others and never change who you are for other people’s acceptance, attention, or emotional support.

Make sure that what you are doing for others are actually good acts strengthening others. Your natural desire to give, share, and serve must always be tempered by practical wisdom. Without a proper measure of "tough love" mixed into your charity claim of good intentions may not truly be kindness.

If you find it difficult to say know and often support the sloth and avarice of others you mat have a selfish addiction to sacrificing yourself to others. Your giving may be a form of self sacrifice like the cutter who damages themselves for some form of emotional high.

If you have a history of being taken advantage of by others and seem more confused by their abuse than you are willing to see your own part in the process, you may be "Narc bait".

The temptation presented by those seemingly weak and compliant souls is as much a part of the narcissist relationship cycle. The helpless female, the damsel in distress, or playing the "dumb blond" are often ploys that are used to trap a man but often backfire and attract a narcissist.

We should be true to ourselves which is why both men and women need to be honest in their quest for those essential truths about ourselves, others and the world we live in.

It isn’t worth it to loose yourself trying to protect yourself from the narcissist if you will not first love yourself, serve something higher than yourself and those you think you are serving. You must set proper boundaries in your acts of kindness to really be kind to people. Do not be a people pleaser. Be willing to loose those who say you are their friend or that say they love you.

Do not be afraid to be put down or rejected by by those who should love you. If you do kind things so that people will love you or hesitate holding people accountable for fear of their rejection you will draw the narcissist to you.

The best defense from the control of a narcissist is to be willing to see the truth, first, about yourself, the world and then that which created it.

The blind narcissist

“Though they are quick to put others down, unhealthy narcissists view themselves in absolutely positive terms.” Daniel Goleman

What does a narcissist feel when they make a mistake?

Nothing.

“There’s a reason narcissists don’t learn from mistakes and that’s because they never get past the first step which is admitting that they made one.” —Jeffrey Kluger

Narcissists never claim responsibility for what they have done wrong.

The Narcissist can feel their life is wasted and may desire subconsciously to create their-self over in someone else.

They may have betrayed and abandoned all those they claimed they have ever loved only to desire to leave the spirit they have secretly served their whole life in another person. They will show no remorse in changing but by the abuse of another child their faith in that spirit of pride they may be found believing that their "redemption" will be through another.

The evil has possessed the choices of the narcissist for so long that it will desire to pass its spiritual pattern on to someone else.

Or take revenge through a devilish redemption of false love.

“He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals.”—Benjamin Franklin

Machiavellianism

Related personality traits include: Psychopathy, Machiavellianism. Narcissists tend to have high self-esteem.

“The narcissist devours people, consumes their output, and casts the empty, writhing shells aside.” —Sam Vaknin

Machiavellianism is "the employment of cunning and duplicity in statecraft or in general conduct".

The word comes from the Italian Renaissance diplomat and writer Niccolò Machiavelli Wrote The Prince.

In modern psychology, Machiavellianism is one of the dark triad personalities, characterized by a duplicitous interpersonal style, a cynical disregard for morality and a focus on self-interest and personal gain.

Machiavellianism is also a term that some social and personality psychologists use to describe a person's tendency to be unemotional, and therefore able to detach him or herself from conventional morality and hence to deceive and manipulate others.

In the 1960s, Richard Christie and Florence L. Geis developed a test for measuring a person's level of Machiavellianism (sometimes referred to as the Machiavelli test).

Psychopathy

Psychopathy, also known as—though sometimes differentiated from—sociopathy. is traditionally defined as a personality disorder with symptoms such as antisocial behavior, diminished empathy and remorse, and disinhibited or bold behavior.

Psychopathy  Socially, it expresses extensive callous and manipulative self-serving behaviors with no regard for others, and often is associated with repeated delinquency, crime and violence, but may also present itself in other, maybe even successful social settings. Mentally, impairments in processes related to affect (emotion) and cognition, particularly socially related mental processes,

• “A sociopath is one who sees others as impersonal objects to be manipulated to fulfill their own narcissistic needs without any regard for the hurtful consequences of their selfish actions.”—R. Alan Woods

Countering Narcissism

Social welfare through the governments that exercise authority is the Narcissists playground. An appetite for benefits of such benefactors and a delight in the dainties of rulers leads the participants into darkness where their eyes are dimmed. They will degenerate where there is no light in society. The nature of the narcissist and there self martyred victims will progress as they are devoured one of another.

The spirit of Cain, Nimrod, Pharaoh, Caesar, and Herod manifested the blindness of the narcissist as they enticed there citizenry with “bread and circuses”. In the social toxicity of such systems relationship are poisoned and narcissism thrives.

Fervent charity is the antidote to legal charity.

This is true on a national and individual basis. Children with loving a father are significantly more likely to do well in school, have self-esteem, empathy, and social behavior. They also avoid high-risk reckless behaviors like drug use.

To avoid serious Narcissistic personality disorder as an adult:

1. ) Encourage and teach empathy with right reason
2. ) Hold characteristics like honesty and kindness as valuable traits
3. ) No entitlements, chores, earning what you get
4. ) discourage greed and encourage practice, and reward caring for others 
5. ) Assist other people especially the elderly or infirm first routinely, actions speak louder than words
6. ) build self-esteem because you did what was right without reward.
7. ) attend to justice first, no false blame on others,
8. ) Show mercy and compassion

Seeking the Kingdom of God and His righteousness is a process that requires perseverance but employs al the tactics of Christ to overcome the destructive nature of the narcissistic state.

1. ) A national network of fervent charity promotes and teaches empathy according to the word of God
2. ) A daily ministration requires character traits like honesty and kindness with wisdom
3. ) No entitlements, Having to ask to receive promotes humility
4. ) Regular and religious sacrifice in order to qualify promotes charity over greed.
5. ) Assisting the elderly and infirm who are unlikely to return the favor.
6. ) Sacrifice with only the hope of return ennobles society.
7. ) Attend to weightier matters offers protection of society
8. ) The daily practice of forgiveness and compassion will promote mercy for all of society.

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The draw of the Narcissist

Why are some people drawn to and draw narcissist?

Is there something missing in a narcissist that you have and he or she can get or desires?

• Nice people draw the narcissist like a moth to a flame.

People who do not like to criticize anyone and generally promote the positive characteristics of others are particularly attractive.

Considerate people who are quick to help or serve others are seen as particularly useful. If they have become insecure enough to have fear of being disliked the narcissist is drawn to them like flies to sugar.

“Out of all the addictions in the world, attention is slowly but surely becoming one of the most dangerous.”—Saahil Prem

Self-reliant people who hate to inconvenience others or be a burden. The narcissist may be dependent upon this self-reliance because they are just the opposite. A narcissist may seldom feel that they are in control even though they are often control freaks. They fear that they are losing control even when they are not. This may make them very possessive, manifesting stalker tendencies.

• “I think a lot of self-importance is a product of fear. And fear, living in sort of an un-self-examined fear-based life, tends to lead to narcissism and self-importance.”—Moby

Someone who appears to be in control will draw the narcissists like the wolf to Little Red Ridinghood.

This is also attractive because someone in control will make few demands on the narcissists. How many men or women seem to shoulder any of your problems only to be abused by their spouse.

Anything that impresses the narcissist or they admire they want and want control of it. They may become totally dependent upon their victim with loving appreciation that consumes.

Your willingness to serve them and their needs make you a revolving satellite in their personal solar system.

• “Narcissistic people are always struggling with the fact that the rest of the world doesn’t revolve around them.”

People who are empathetic and can feel what others are feeling are the envy of narcissists but in a love-hate sort of way. Narcissists want to think or at least want others to think that they are empathetic.

Narcissists have few boundaries in the sense that everyone is a revolving part of their personal universe. They do not actually feel your pain but they imagine that they do.

• “It is not love that should be depicted as blind, but self-love.”—Voltaire

Their state of mind may be planted when they are very young and because of trauma they are never able to overcome the need to complete the next stage after the original symbiotic relationship [ the relationship between an infant and its mother or father in which the infant is dependent on the parent both physically and emotionally.] with parents and the world around them.

Empaths are often considerate to the point of self-sacrifice which feeds the god or goddess complex of the narcissist.

The only thing the narcissist share is their pain and dark emotions of anger and hate because the part of them that could feel these things are buried away in their own denial.

Tactics of a Malignant Narcissist

Malignant narcissists and psychopaths will ultimately demean, exploit, and hurt anyone who comes into a relationship with them.

They have a variety of tactics that they may employ to control others while they seek to escape accountability for their actions. Almost everyone can be infected with to some degree with a narcissist spirit from time to time. If you see yourself manifesting these tactics or they are used on you that can be a good thing because you see it. Malignant narcissists will not see it until they deal with the root cause which is unforgiveness and lack of repentance. Also, forgiveness and repentance are the best tactics against a Malignant narcissist.

Projection is a defense mechanism used by the narcissist to displace responsibility of their position or actions by attributing them to others and avoid personal accountability.

The narcissist projects their abuse in others rather than acknowledge their own flaws, imperfections and wrongdoings, malignant narcissists and sociopaths opt to dump their own traits on their unsuspecting suspects in a way that is painful and excessively cruel. Instead of admitting that they are needy, dependent and dishonest they will accuse others of those faults.

They will be guilty of what they try to make others feel guilty and ashamed. This is a way for a narcissist to project any toxic shame they have about themselves onto another. Blame or similar faults others are always held up rather than personal objectivity of themselves. They are always deflecting and blame-shifting.

Don't be a party to this process but do not challenge their delusion without being willing to suffer their attack. If you can see without judgment that the narcissist is trapped in their own ego your none reaction and loving observation may shed enough light that they be willing to see the truth. Do not be sucked into empathetic support or you find yourself less attractive as a person and the subject of their attacks.

Irrational positions and conversation, circular logic, word babble that seem to produce nothing but confusion are common with both sociopaths and malignant narcissists. Because of their personal delusion they may have trouble staying on topic and commonly change the subject rather than follow the facts or deal with the real issue. The narcissist may prefer to attack any opposition or opposing opinion, whether real or imagined, with discrediting ad hominems or fictional accusations. This may lead to frustration and even the ill effects of genuine guilt on their part. Do not succumb or sucked into their drama, forgive their abuse.

Malignant narcissists try to appear as intellectual geniuses but make leaps of logic and swamps of assumptions rather than detailed reasoning. They see the projected picture of their truth disregarding differing perspective, dismissing inconvenient facts and anyone who presents those facts or elements.

Unsupported assumptions are emphasized as validating any perspective or point that vaguely supports their perspective. Because there are liars in the world any testimony that contradicts their position is labeled false.

With cruel claims that their partner never listen, they are never satisfied. They may deliberately accuse you of ideas and opinions or feelings that are not yours. This is often a part of a plan to “gaslight” you, drawing you into a defensive position, or drawing you into an unwinnable argument.

They want to create doubt in others.

Keeping you doubting and off guard by acts of kindness and caring and then shifting the mood through a variety of ways can hold out hope only to dash it to pieces. They will sabotage good times or feelings or even the memory of them and then make it your fault.

While a willingness to forgive abuse and the realization that the abuser is trapped in the trauma of their malignancy may make these condition more bearable unless the narcissist is willing to see some of these traits distancing yourself may be the only solution.

Remember you may have been drawn to this relationship, not by love, but by compulsion. You may have been manipulated by false charm, gifts, and gratuities until you were seduced and courted, only to be betrayed and captured in an abusive relationship of control and possession. There may be no reason to remain a hostage if the narcissist can see no reason to see, seek help and change. If they think it is everyone else's problem there will be no real change.

There is a difference between constructive and destructive criticism. Are they really desiring to help or just put you down? They are constantly raising the standards which you may never be able to meet even if you do. They will sour every success stealing or dampening your thunder.

Malignant narcissists can do more than call you names, degrade and belittle you. Besides making your life miserable they can be dangerous to your life itself. If their control is beginning to slip away as you began to heal your part of the relationship their abuse may become physical. This threat can escalate rapidly and take many forms of envy, jealousy, possessiveness, and stalking.

You may need support from others who understand or you may need to distance yourself. And you may need to document your observations independently and with the witness of others.

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