Talk:Marriage
Matrimonial counciling
One of the most important commitments an individual can make is the union of a man and a women. [1]
That union of Holy Matromony is a state where an individual becomes united with another individual as one person. The pupose of this Family is to establish the next generation.[2]
While, Christ is the corner stone of every family it is that Family under God that is the unit that is the foundational building block of the kingdom of God. The kingdom of God which is from that generation to generaton.[2]
There are several elements of this sacred union just as there elements to the unions that are of the world.
These elements of a sacred union may include:
How to Handle Conflict and Solving Problems?
What are your Priorities and do the match up?
What do you see as a Career?
What are your respective rolls in the raising of Children?
What about finances and Money?
Interests, Hobbies, and common friends?
The long term pursuits?
What are your long term goals and life interests or satisfactions, Future Plans?
Spiritual Beliefs
In every family there are two trees.
Do you understand your roll and temptation from the presents of those trees|two trees]]. The tree of knowledge and the tree of life.
A Spiritual Belief is not knowledge about spiritual things but a knowing of the Holy Spirit and an abiding of faith in that Holy Spirit that gives direction and strength in your walk.
When you go into your personal prayer closet to consult with God and His Holy Spirit do you wait for His righteous counsel?
God made mankind male and female. He made them different in mind and body. Yet, together they can become more than the some of their parts. When Jesus sent his disciples out he did so in pairs. The DNA in your bodies is composed of the double helix.
All throughout creation we find this pattern of two becoming one to provide the fruit of production and the faculty of protection in the process of life.
Both must eat of the tree of life so you are not deceived by the serpent nor by the tree of knowledge.
Let the individual and the Family both pray and meditate alone and together. And in the community be not divided in your person.
Your Values
Your value should be those of Christ and His Holy Spirit which are found listed in the doctrine of Jesus and His virtue.
A family of God must walk in The Way of the Father. It is that faithful walk that leads out of the darkness and gives sight to the blind.
We can list the names of virtue.[5] but those virtues must be written on our hearts and upon our minds.
What we often list as vices are actually the absence of virtue which are the utility that runs the machinery of life.
While, social virtues are essential to bringing the Holy Spirit into our midst of the Christian community a man and a woman must guard against dividing their spousal communion by getting or giving attention to others.
Commitment
While the vows of a legal marriage are bor the State that grants a union the vows of Holy Matrimony are before God.
Those vows before God may need to be written down and agreed to before witnesses. What had been common knowledge in the natural law relationship of Husband and Wife has been ignored and neglected until there many questions about marriage today.
Marriage used to be a two-party contract establishing a union based on that contract and fundamental Natural Law as "Husband and Wife", a great "domestic relationship". A shift in the nature of the union of Husband and Wife had begun in the 1700's that would alter the nature of society itself.
Today, society often alters the nature of marriage so that protection from the whims of society and its courts may be both necessary and wise.
In Bouvier’s definition of law we find stated that the relationship of "husband and wife, parent and child" were "private" but under the vows of a legal marriage the State claims a legal interest in the union and the products of that domestic union.[6]
A Husband and Wife are one because Jesus wants it that way but the law confirms it. Even in the definition of Husband and Wife, it is called, “One of the great domestic relationships”. That relationship, “being that of a man and a woman lawfully joined in marriage, by which, at common law, the legal existence of the wife is incorporated with that of her husband”.[7]
In other words, it is a lawful joining of the woman’s status to the man.
- “And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.” (Mark 10:8.)
While, it is understood in the natural law that the “Husband and Wife are considered one person in law”.[8] The legal system may diverge from that opinion.
- “The laws of nature are most perfect and immutable; but the condition of human law is an unending succession, and there is nothing in it which can continue perpetually. Human laws are born, live, and die.”[9]
Expectations
Each spouse should write down privately what they expect from matrimony and their spouse and what they feel they should be expected to bring to the union.
CONFLICT RESOLUTION
They should have layers of a,ternatives to go to to resolve conflict. They should agree to some of these alternatives before they become married.
Canon title 7
TITLE VII.
MARRIAGE (Cann. 1055 - 1165)
Can. 1055 §1. The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life and which is ordered by its nature to the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring, has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament between the baptized.
§2. For this reason, a valid matrimonial contract cannot exist between the baptized without it being by that fact a sacrament.
Can. 1056 The essential properties of marriage are unity and indissolubility, which in Christian marriage obtain a special firmness by reason of the sacrament.
Can. 1057 §1. The consent of the parties, legitimately manifested between persons quali-fied by law, makes marriage; no human power is able to supply this consent.
§2. Matrimonial consent is an act of the will by which a man and a woman mutually give and accept each other through an irrevocable covenant in order to establish marriage.
Can. 1058 All persons who are not prohibited by law can contract marriage.
Can. 1059 Even if only one party is Christian, the marriage of Christian is governed not only by divine law but also by canon law, without prejudice to the competence of civil authority concerning the merely civil effects of the same marriage.
Can. 1060 Marriage possesses the favor of law; therefore, in a case of doubt, the validity of a marriage must be upheld until the contrary is proven.
Can. 1061 §1. A valid marriage between the baptized is called ratum tantum if it has not been consummated; it is called ratum et consummatum if the spouses have performed between themselves in a human fashion a conjugal act which is suitable in itself for the procreation of offspring, to which marriage is ordered by its nature and by which the spouses become one flesh.
§2. After a marriage has been celebrated, if the spouses have lived together consummation is presumed until the contrary is proven.
§3. An invalid marriage is called putative if at least one party celebrated it in good faith, until both parties become certain of its nullity.
Can. 1062 §1. A promise of marriage, whether unilateral or bilateral, which is called an engagement, is governed by the particular law established by the conference of bishops, after it has considered any existing customs and civil laws.
§2. A promise to marry does not give rise to an action to seek the celebration of marriage; an action to repair damages, however, does arise if warranted.
Audios and Booklets
- Permanency of marriage - A review, in love and hope, of a book and the doctrine it creates and promotes. In the “Introduction” it states, “I cannot tell you how the Holy Spirit will direct you. I only know it will always be consistent with the Word of God, but uniquely patterned for you.” But what does that mean? Read more
- Holy Matrimony vs Marriage - Chapter 1 of the book The Covenants of the gods
- 2/15/2013 A discussion on the first chapter of book, The Covenants of the gods, titled Holy Matrimony vs. Marriage. Husbands and wives are joined together in a binding agreement under the authority of a higher power, but what higher power? Holy matrimony is a covenant under the authority of God the Father; whereas marriage is a three party contract between the couple and the State who grants permission for the union. Brother Gregory examines the differences and similarities between legally and lawfully joining husband and wife, and the spiritual ramifications for each.
- Marriage v. Matrimony Part 1
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- 2/15/2013 A continuation of Brother Gregory's discussion on the first chapter of the book, The Covenants of the gods, titled Holy Matrimony vs. Marriage.
- Marriage v Matrimony Part 2
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- The International Acceptance and Validity of Holy Matrimony
- Is Holy Matrimony a Valid Union of a Man and a woman?
- Holy Matrimony vs. Marriage from the book "The Covenants of the gods"
- What is the difference between Matrimony by the authority of God and Marriage as it is defined in a legal system?
Man
- 2012-03-31 Blogtalk (half hour) Listen here
- 2012-03-31 LibertyRadioLive Keys of the Kingdom (2 hours) Listen here
- More on the Sabbath Hour Listen here
Woman
- 2012-03-24 Half hour Blogtalk (half hour) Listen here
- 2012-03-24 LibertyRadioLive Keys of the Kingdom (2 hours) Listen here
- More on the Sabbath Hour Listen here
- Synopsis of 2-hour Keys of the Kingdom Recording
- 1st Half Hour
- The Challenge of Change
- When Shift Happens
- Universal Blackout
- Overthrowing the Law Modern Geology
- The Idolatry of the Eschatology of Men
- The Betrayal of the Offices of Power
- The Salvation of Service
- 2nd Half Hour
- The Booming topic of Woman
- 2nd Hour
- AAA Networking and real charity
- Back to the topic of Woman
- The marriage bed
- 3rd Half Hour
- The Salvation of a Successful Societies
- Blessed are the Baron?
- Cherishing the Virtuous Woman
- Where is our Bozra, our Fortress? Is it the Family?
- 1st Half Hour
- ↑ “14 Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety. 15 He that is surety for a stranger shall smart for it: and he that hateth suretiship is sure. {smart: Heb. be sore broken} {suretiship: Heb. those that strike hands} 16 A gracious woman retaineth honour: and strong men retain riches.” Proverbs 11:14-16
- ↑ 2.0 2.1 Kingdom from generation to generation
- Exodus 17:16 "For he said, Because the LORD hath sworn [that] the LORD [will have] war with Amalek from generation to generation."
- Isaiah 13:20 "It shall never be inhabited, neither shall it be dwelt in from generation to generation: neither shall the Arabian pitch tent there; neither shall the shepherds make their fold there."
- Isaiah 34:10 "It shall not be quenched night nor day; the smoke thereof shall go up for ever: from generation to generation it shall lie waste; none shall pass through it for ever and ever."
- Isaiah 34:17 "And he hath cast the lot for them, and his hand hath divided it unto them by line: they shall possess it for ever, from generation to generation shall they dwell therein."
- Isaiah 51:8 For the moth shall eat them up like a garment, and the worm shall eat them like wool: but my righteousness shall be for ever, and my salvation from generation to generation.
- Jeremiah 50:39 Therefore the wild beasts of the desert with the wild beasts of the islands shall dwell [there], and the owls shall dwell therein: and it shall be no more inhabited for ever; neither shall it be dwelt in from generation to generation.
- Lamentations 5:19 Thou, O LORD, remainest for ever; thy throne from generation to generation.
- Daniel 4:3 How great [are] his signs! and how mighty [are] his wonders! his kingdom [is] an everlasting kingdom, and his dominion [is] from generation to generation.
- Daniel 4:34 And at the end of the days I Nebuchadnezzar lifted up mine eyes unto heaven, and mine understanding returned unto me, and I blessed the most High, and I praised and honoured him that liveth for ever, whose dominion [is] an everlasting dominion, and his kingdom [is] from generation to generation:
- Joel 3:20 But Judah shall dwell for ever, and Jerusalem from generation to generation.
- Luke 1:50 And his mercy [is] on them that fear him from generation to generation.
- Genesis 6:9 These [are] the generations of Noah: Noah was a just man [and] perfect in his generations, [and] Noah walked with God.
- Psalms 14:5 There were they in great fear: for God [is] in the generation of the righteous.
- Leviticus 25:10 And ye shall hallow the fiftieth year, and proclaim liberty throughout [all] the land unto all the inhabitants thereof: it shall be a jubile unto you; and ye shall return every man unto his possession, and ye shall return every man unto his family."
- Matthew 23:9 "And call no [man] your father upon the earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven."
- ↑ Spiritual
- Romans 7:14 "For we know that the law is spiritual: but I am carnal, sold under sin.
- Romans 15:27 It hath pleased them verily; and their debtors they are. For if the Gentiles have been made partakers of their spiritual things <4152>, their duty is also to minister unto them in carnal things.
- 1 Corinthians 2:13 Which things also we speak, not in the words which man’s wisdom teacheth, but which the Holy Ghost<pneuma 4151> teacheth; comparing spiritual things <pneumatikos 4152> with spiritual <4152>.
- 1 Corinthians 9:11 If we have sown unto you spiritual things, [is it] a great thing if we shall reap your carnal things? 12 If others be partakers of [this] power<exousia 1849> over you, [are] not we rather? Nevertheless we have not used this power<exousia 1849>; but suffer all things, lest we should hinder the gospel of Christ. 13 Do ye not know that they which minister about holy things live [of the things] of the temple? and they which wait at the altar are partakers with the altar? 14 Even so hath the Lord ordained that they which preach the gospel should live of the gospel.
- 1 Corinthians 14:1 Follow after charity, and desire spiritual <4152> [gifts], but rather that ye may prophesy. 2 Ye know that ye were Gentiles, carried away unto these dumb idols, even as ye were led.
- 1 Corinthians 15:44 It is sown a natural body; it is raised a spiritual <4152> body. There is a natural body, and there is a spiritual <4152> body. 45 And so it is written, The first man Adam was made a living soul; the last Adam [was made] a quickening spirit <zoopoieo 2227. 46 Howbeit that [was] not first which is spiritual <4152> , but that which is natural; and afterward that which is spiritual <4152>.
- Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers<exousia 1849>, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual <4152> wickedness in high [places].
- Colossians 3:15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful. 16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual <4152> songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. 17 And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, [do] all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.
- 1 Peter 2:5 Ye also, as lively stones, are built up a spiritual <4152> house, an holy priesthood, to offer up spiritual <4152> sacrifices, acceptable to God by Jesus Christ.
- ↑ Psalms 119:4 Thou hast commanded [us] to keep thy precepts diligently.
- Psalms 119:15 I will meditate in thy precepts, and have respect unto thy ways.
- Psalms 119:27 Make me to understand the way of thy precepts: so shall I talk of thy wondrous works.
- Psalms 119:40 Behold, I have longed after thy precepts: quicken me in thy righteousness.
- Psalms 119:45 And I will walk at liberty: for I seek thy precepts.
- Psalms 119:56 This I had, because I kept thy precepts.
- Psalms 119:63 I [am] a companion of all [them] that fear thee, and of them that keep thy precepts.
- Psalms 119:69 The proud have forged a lie against me: [but] I will keep thy precepts with [my] whole heart.
- Psalms 119:78 Let the proud be ashamed; for they dealt perversely with me without a cause: [but] I will meditate in thy precepts.
- Psalms 119:87 They had almost consumed me upon earth; but I forsook not thy precepts.
- Psalms 119:93 I will never forget thy precepts: for with them thou hast quickened me.
- Psalms 119:94 I [am] thine, save me; for I have sought thy precepts.
- Psalms 119:100 I understand more than the ancients, because I keep thy precepts.
- Psalms 119:104 Through thy precepts I get understanding: therefore I hate every false way.
- Psalms 119:110 The wicked have laid a snare for me: yet I erred not from thy precepts.
- Psalms 119:128 Therefore I esteem all [thy] precepts [concerning] all [things to be] right; [and] I hate every false way.
- Psalms 119:134 Deliver me from the oppression of man: so will I keep thy precepts.
- Psalms 119:159 Consider how I love thy precepts: quicken me, O LORD, according to thy lovingkindness.
- Psalms 119:168 I have kept thy precepts and thy testimonies: for all my ways [are] before thee.
- Psalms 119:173 Let thine hand help me; for I have chosen thy precepts.
- Isaiah 28:10 For precept [must be] upon precept, precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little, [and] there a little:
- Isaiah 28:13 But the word of the LORD was unto them precept upon precept, precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little, [and] there a little; that they might go, and fall backward, and be broken, and snared, and taken.
- ↑ A List of virtues
1) Courage – bravery and valor- 2) Temperance – self-control and restraint (tempered by Friendliness, Justice, and Truthfulness).
- 3) Liberality – bigheartedness, charity, and generosity (tempered by Good Temper, Magnificence, and Truthfulness).
- 4) Magnificence – radiance, joie de vivre (tempered by Honor, Justice, and Truthfulness).
- 5) Pride – Love of self-satisfaction (tempered by Liberality, Honor, and Truthfulness).
- 6) Honor – respect, reverence, admiration (tempered by Liberality, Justice, and Truthfulness)
- 7) Good Temper – equanimity, level-headedness (tempered by etc., etc., and etc.).
- 8) Friendliness – conviviality, care, and sociability(tempered by etc., etc., and etc.).
- 9) Truthfulness – straightforwardness, frankness and candor (tempered by etc., etc., and etc.).
- 10) Wit – a sense of humor – (tempered by Good Temper, Magnificence, and Pride).
- 11) Friendship – camaraderie and companionship (tempered by etc., etc., and etc.).
- 12) Justice – impartiality, evenhandedness and fairness (tempered by Liberality, Courage, and Truthfulness).
- ↑ “3. An analysis of the science of law presents a view, first, of the rights of persons, distinguishing them as natural persons and artificial person, or body politic or corporations. These rights are deemed either absolute, as relating to the enjoyment of personal security, liberty, and of private property or, on the other hand, as relative, - that is, arising out of the relation in which several persons stand. These relations are either, first, public or political, viz.: the relation of magistrate and people; or, second, are private, as the relations of master and servant, husband and wife, parent and child, guardian and ward, to which might be added relations arising out private contracts, such as partnerships, principal and agent, and the like.” Bouvier’s definition of law.
- ↑ Black’s 3rd.Ed.p.910.
- ↑ Vir et uxor consentur in lege una persona. Coke, Litt. 112; Jenk. Cent. Cas. 27.
- ↑ Leges naturæ perfectissimæ sunt et immutaviles; humani vero juris conditio semper in infinitum decurrit, et nihil est in co quod perpetuo stare possit. Leges humanæ nascuntur, vivunt, moriuntur.7 Coke, 25.