Talk:Marriage

Matrimonial counciling

One of the most important commitments an individual can make is the union of a man and a women.

That union of Holy Matromony is a state where an individual becomes united with another individual as one person. The pupose of this Family is to establish the next generation.

While, Christ is the corner stone of every family it is that Family unit that is the foundational building block of the kingdom of God which is from that generation to generaton.

There are several elements of this sacred union just as there elements to the world.

These elements may include:

• Spiritual Beliefs
• Your Values
• Commitment
• Expectations

How to Handle Conflict and Solving Problems?

What are your Priorities and do the match up?

What do you see as a Career?

What are your respective rolls in the raising of Children?

What about finances and Money?

Interests, Hobbies, and common friends?

The long term pursuits?

What are your long term goals and life interests or satisfactions, Future Plans?

Spiritual Beliefs

In every family there are two trees.

Do you understand your roll and temptation from the presents of those trees|two trees]]. The tree of knowledge and the tree of life.

A Spiritual Belief is not knowledge about spiritual things but a knowing of the Holy Spirit and an abiding of faith in that Holy Spirit that gives direction and strength in your walk.

When you go into your personal prayer closet to consult with God and His Holy Spirit do you wait for His righteous counsel?

God made mankind male and female. He made them different in mind and body. Yet, together they can become more than the some of their parts. When Jesus sent his disciples out he did so in pairs. The DNA in your bodies is composed of the double helix.

All throughout creation we find this pattern of two becoming one to provide the fruit of production and the faculty of protection in the process of life.

Both must eat of the tree of life so you are not deceived by the serpent nor by the tree of knowledge.

Let the individual and the Family both pray and meditate alone and together. And in the community be not divided in your person.

Your Values

Your value should be those of Christ and His Holy Spirit which are found listed in the doctrine of Jesus and His virtue.

A family of God must walk in The Way of the Father. It is that faithful walk that leads out of the darkness and gives sight to the blind.

We can list the names of virtuesvirtue. but those virtues must be written on our hearts and upon our minds.

What we often list as vices are actually the absence of virtue which are the utility that runs the machinery of life.

While, social virtues are essential to bringing the Holy Spirit into our midst of the christian community a man and a woman must guard against dividing their spousal communion by getting or giving attention to others.

Commitment

While the vows of a legal marriage are bor the State that grants a union the vows of Holy Matrimony are before God.

Those vows before God may need to be written down and agreed to before witnesses. What had been common knowledge in the natural law relationship of Husband and Wife has been ignored and neglected until there many questions about marriage today.

Marriage used to be a two-party contract establishing a union based on that contract and fundamental Natural Law as "Husband and Wife", a great "domestic relationship". A shift in the nature of the union of Husband and Wife had begun in the 1700's that would alter the nature of society itself.

Today, society often alters the nature of marriage so that protection from the whims of society and its courts may be both necessary and wise.

In Bouvier’s definition of law we find stated that the relationship of "husband and wife, parent and child" were "private" but under the vows of a legal marriage the State claims a legal interest in the union and the products of that domestic union.

A Husband and Wife are one because Jesus wants it that way but the law confirms it. Even in the definition of Husband and Wife, it is called, “One of the great domestic relationships”. That relationship, “being that of a man and a woman lawfully joined in marriage, by which, at common law, the legal existence of the wife is incorporated with that of her husband”.

In other words, it is a lawful joining of the woman’s status to the man.

“And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.” (Mark 10:8.)

While, it is understood in the natural law that the “Husband and Wife are considered one person in law”. The legal system may diverge from that opinion.

“The laws of nature are most perfect and immutable; but the condition of human law is an unending succession, and there is nothing in it which can continue perpetually. Human laws are born, live, and die.”

Expectations

Each spouse should write down privately what they expect from matrimony and their spouse and what they feel they should be expected to bring to the union.

CONFLICT RESOLUTION

They should have layers of a,ternatives to go to to resolve conflict. They should agree to some of these alternatives before they become married.

Canon title 7

TITLE VII.

MARRIAGE (Cann. 1055 - 1165)

Can. 1055 §1. The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life and which is ordered by its nature to the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring, has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament between the baptized.

§2. For this reason, a valid matrimonial contract cannot exist between the baptized without it being by that fact a sacrament.

Can. 1056 The essential properties of marriage are unity and indissolubility, which in Christian marriage obtain a special firmness by reason of the sacrament.

Can. 1057 §1. The consent of the parties, legitimately manifested between persons quali-fied by law, makes marriage; no human power is able to supply this consent.

§2. Matrimonial consent is an act of the will by which a man and a woman mutually give and accept each other through an irrevocable covenant in order to establish marriage.

Can. 1058 All persons who are not prohibited by law can contract marriage.

Can. 1059 Even if only one party is Christian, the marriage of Christian is governed not only by divine law but also by canon law, without prejudice to the competence of civil authority concerning the merely civil effects of the same marriage.

Can. 1060 Marriage possesses the favor of law; therefore, in a case of doubt, the validity of a marriage must be upheld until the contrary is proven.

Can. 1061 §1. A valid marriage between the baptized is called ratum tantum if it has not been consummated; it is called ratum et consummatum if the spouses have performed between themselves in a human fashion a conjugal act which is suitable in itself for the procreation of offspring, to which marriage is ordered by its nature and by which the spouses become one flesh.

§2. After a marriage has been celebrated, if the spouses have lived together consummation is presumed until the contrary is proven.

§3. An invalid marriage is called putative if at least one party celebrated it in good faith, until both parties become certain of its nullity.

Can. 1062 §1. A promise of marriage, whether unilateral or bilateral, which is called an engagement, is governed by the particular law established by the conference of bishops, after it has considered any existing customs and civil laws.

§2. A promise to marry does not give rise to an action to seek the celebration of marriage; an action to repair damages, however, does arise if warranted.