Enmeshment

Teal Swan did a video on How To Heal Family Enmeshment Trauma

The true problem with enmeshment may go much deeper than family structure but may depend as much on the structure of society which can enmesh families undermining their autonomy.

Enmeshment is a concept in psychology and psychotherapy introduced by Salvador Minuchin to describe families where personal boundaries are diffused, sub-systems undifferentiated, and over-concern for others leads to a loss of autonomous development.

Minuchin believed that the root of most childhood problems is not within the child but the family as a unit. Therefore, to change the child's behavior, we must help change the family.

There is a great deal of talk or consideration of individual autonomy and borders as well as hierarchy.

Hierarchy is about power but power is not always about force. Reason, compassion, loyalty are also power.

Are we truly autonomous?

Relational dependent species but relation to what and how?

We are all enmeshed in something,

Sense of self is always censored through our own imagination?

Truth. Of self.

Where does automy begin and end.

To know what your wants and needs are you need to know your self. What is the truth?

Enmeshment trauma ma result from the trauma of seeing the true self.

Being entangled with something..... But what?

If you want a strong sense of self you need an Honest view of the truth about yourself and allow others the same opportunity.

A healthy sense of self does not seek isolation. Nor conflict .. nor do they fear either.

A healthy sense of self is called a "core".

I am that I am

We are also I am but we let others be who they are.

What does it mean when a person is enmeshed?

Enmeshment describes a relationship system where members are expected to think, feel, and believe certain ways, based upon spoken or unspoken rules for interaction. That form of relationship ultimately prevents true independence.

What is the difference between enmeshment and codependency?

Over Involvement: People in enmeshed relationships often become overly involved with one another. Codependent spouses or parents may become over-involved in their loved one's activities. In this system, there is often little space for privacy or personal growth.

What causes enmeshment?

Other times, and perhaps more frequently, enmeshment occurs as a result of family patterns being passed down through the generations. It is a result of family and personal boundaries becoming more and more permeable, undifferentiated, and fluid.

What does an enmeshed marriage look like?

Enmeshment is having poor boundaries as to where your partner ends, and you begin. Subordination Emotional completion Crutch dependence. Unbalanced reciprocation Lack of mutual presentation. Communication interruption DARKNESS AND COGNATIVE DISONANCE

Parental enmeshment

parents are overly and inappropriately reliant or make child reliant.

Enmeshment may mean a parent centers their actions or emotions on the child(ren) and their successes or mistakes, attempts to know and direct all of the child's thoughts or feelings, and relies heavily on the child(ren) for emotional support.

mother E In an enmeshed relationship, a mother provides her daughter love and attention but tends to exploit the relationship, fortifying her own needs by living through her daughter. ... They call these mothers “mothers without borders,” as they tend to lack the ability to establish healthy boundaries.

Here are six signs of an enmeshed family and the boundaries that they violate:

1 Parentification. Parentification violates your basic need to receive care. ...

2 Criticism. Criticism violates a sense of worth. ...

3 Possessiveness. Possessiveness violates a sense of autonomy. ...

4 Helplessness. ...

5 Unpredictability. ... 6 Rescuing.

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